This is a letter I wrote to myself a few days before turning 19. This contains very general pointers on how I want to mould myself. More than a year later, looking back at this, I’ve not exactly followed my own words. But I hope I’m heading there.
You are not what people perceive you to be
You are what you believe you are, and what you believe you can be. Others attitude towards you is simply a reflection of your own attitude towards self. You can be beautiful, you can be selfish, and you can be kind, you can be crude, you can be trashy and you can be simple. You can be a goddess, if that’s what it takes you to believe that you decide your life. Easier said than done? Try it out then.
It’s your life and you get to rule it. Do what you like; scream, dress up, travel, drink, meet new people or just chill with some pizza at home. These are your personal choices and don’t let anyone decide for you.
If you have an opinion, never hold it back.
Just be educated on the topic you’re speaking about. If you’re going to blame rape on the way a person dresses up, you need to change your opinion and how you evaluate things. In that case, no one wants your opinion.
Otherwise, never hold back. Stand up for what you think is right, even if you’re alone. If you love someone tell them. You may not get a chance tomorrow. If you have problems with someone, be the bigger person and sort it out. Life is too short for hatred.
You don’t have to fit into societal conventions of beauty
You can be your own kind of beautiful. Just because you think someone else is beautiful, it doesn’t mean that you are any less. There is space for lots of beauty on this planet.
Don’t be afraid to experiment. Make mistakes.
Don’t be afraid
Don’t be afraid to walk away from toxic people
Don’t be afraid to speak up against any kind of abuse
Don’t be afraid to speak up against any unfair practices
Don’t be afraid to tell your hairdresser you don’t like what he has done to your hair.
You’re never alone.
Your life is bound by endless strings to people who will be affected by the choices you make. These are the only people you’re answerable to- your parents. The world can drop you for your mistakes and your failures, but from what I’ve seen until now, these are the only people who won’t. They value you more than their happiness and it’s your duty to do the same.
Bring about changes
Don’t be stuck with a person or a place you don’t like. Constantly evolve and grow. Make conscious efforts to do so. You can’t expect others to find you interesting if you get bored with yourself?
Love yourself before anyone else has to.
You are a factor of many elements
What you are today, a complex and complete, valid human being- is not because of you alone. You have been inspired by many and taken their mannerisms and habits. You are miracle- 2 eyes, limbs and a beating heart. Be grateful. Not many have these.
You are the books you read, the music you listen to, the words you write, the people you meet, the places you visit, and how you make people feel.
You are so much.
Liked this post?
Click that like button and tell me what you think of this.
Follow for more posts!
You can find some of my older posts below